He was the most precious, playful kitty with big ears who loved to pounce and scare the shit out of me by jumping out from under the bed at my feet. He was always very calm riding in the car, going to the vet and putting up with whatever seasonal costume we dressed him in (ie the plaid, wooly, jingle bell collar). His life was forever changed when we brought in his feline brother Wario first and then again when Mozart the doggie joined the family. He accepted them both (reluctantly at first) with big-brotherly comradary and made sure they knew who was boss.

Lionel walked by my side throughout the ups, downs and changes of my life with a quiet wisdom that made me slow down, pay attention and remember to be present. Whenever I would write, meditate or allow myself a moment of peace in the chaos of life, Lionel would jump in my lap with purring approval as if to say, “This is where it’s at momma!” He spent his days as most cats do, in the background resting, connecting with a special energy that kept our family grounded and sane. If he didn’t want to be petted, he let you know with a swift swipe or a menacing growl; he had no tolerance for misery. He didn’t talk very much, so when he did he got our attention. Usually he was saying, “I’m here and I have an opinion about what you’re doing!” Sometimes I wish I knew what that opinion was.

Lionel’s days in the physical world are gone, but I know his calming, wise energy is available for ready access whenever I ask. I know I’ll feel the comforting vibration of his purr and the soothing rhythm of his ‘milking’ paws in my heart, especially in my quiet moments of writing and meditating. He has passed on but will continue to light my life and remind me of everything of love. Thank you Lionel for 5 fabulous years together!

Journal = I love to write, reflect and constantly grow and find peace and harmony in the process of journaling.
Running shoes = I enjoy my commitment to running and finding “my happy pace.” It’s cathartic and healing and as my mother said, I ran before I walked as a child.
Castanets = I dance to the rythm of life and am fluent in Spanish.
Inspirational Card Deck = I’m always looking on the bright side of things and learning more about myself. These help me reflect and stay upbeat.
Fresh flowers = I love having several vases of fresh flowers all over our house. They make me feel alive and remind me of the cycle of life.
Iphone = It’s important for me to connect authentically with others through texts, phone calls, emails and Facebook. I also love listening to music on it and using it to track my runs.
Passport = I love to travel because I feel present in new places and love meeting new people and learning new things that only travel can teach.
Banana = I eat at least one every day. It represents my commitment to healthful eating and my “monkey mind” that I do my best to tame as often as possible.
Buddah = I enjoy the quiet and stillness of meditation and yoga and appreciate remembering the God-being that I am through those inactivities. This statue is a reminder. It sits on a shelf by my bed.
Microphone = I believe I was put on this planet to teach, inspire and empower. The microphone reminds me of my strong voice and my purpose.

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I came home from my run and continued to think about what fills me up and makes me whole. I asked myself, “Why can’t I always feel the way I felt for the duration of that 3 minute song? What keeps me from that?” Searching for answers (as I usually am!) I remembered a book I recently read about by Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology, called Flourish and ordered it on Amazon. I’m sure it will have some valuable tips and tricks to help me learn how to feel more fulfilled in my awesome life, but I still felt as though intellect wasn’t going to be the answer, because I’ve tried that so many times. I mean, how many self-help books can one girl read?

Speaking of self-help books, I’d be amiss if I didn’t mention someone who sparked this whole fulfillment conversation two days ago (I’ve just realized this!), my friend Randy Siegel who sent me his most recent book to read and endorse. I read it on the plane from Atlanta to San Antonio and felt so fully engaged and present as I read it. His authenticity and willingness to be vulnerable were inspiring and the one line of the book that triggered my fulfillment conversation was something his therapist said to him, “Randy, you’re very aware, but you’re not awake.” I asked myself, “Am I awake?”

As I strolled the Riverwalk that evening, I ‘stayed awake’ and fully experienced my five senses on my journey around the Paseo de Rio. I felt great. And again, after that experience of being fully (or at least mostly) present, I was disappointed to find myself immersed in my thoughts far away from the training room I worked in the next day. I thought to myself, “I’m on auto-pilot and am completely in outer space (or more accurately inner space!)”

Today, right before writing this, I got another dose of insight into fulfillment when I watched a wonderful TED video of Tony Robbins that a friend posted on Facebook. Watch it! You’ll love it.

I want to feel more fulfilled in my life, more alive in each moment and moved by the honesty of my emotions, with no fear of expressing them. This moment is all I have and when I give myself the gift of presence, I connect with God. God can only access me in the here and now. If I continue to focus on my past or worry about my future, I miss the opportunity to commune with the omniscient, omnipresent energy that is pure love, zest and zeal for this thing called my life.

I remember from that deep, centered and peaceful place inside of me something that Eckhart Tolle in his book A New Earth says about ‘goodness’ and replace it with today’s theme:

“You do not become fulfilled by trying to be fulfilled, but by finding the fulfillment that is already within you, and allowing that fulfillment to emerge.”

Choose in this moment to be your happiest and most fulfilled self!

After writing a blog a day for a year in 2010, I never thought I’d say that, but as it turns out, writing is as necessary for my well being as exercising, eating right and taking occasional salt baths. Really. I feel disconnected from my authentic self and departed from my purpose when I’m not expressing myself with words.

So why has it taken me so long to get back in the ballgame? Well, as I often do, I gathered up all of my energy over the last five months to focus on starting a new job, move to a new city and begin what feels like a new life. Now that I’ve covered all those bases and settled in, my life passion and purpose are pushing me through to home base, back to the place where I feel the most “me,” where I’m sharing and connecting with others with the mission to inspire and empower others to be their happiest and best selves.

Though I’m not sure what all this means or what it will lead, for now, I’m going to write when I feel the nudge and I’m going to “be” my best to stay in balance. I’m feeling a nudge from a higher place to start a new project and doing my best to keep my growling gremlins at bay. It feels good to write and for now that’s all I care about. No strings (or gremlins) attached.

I’m grateful for the renewed urge brought about not only from God and my divine self, but also from a Coaching for High Performance class I’m taking for my PhD and an upcoming speaking event I’m leading in Greensboro in July. Hopefully these and other nudges will lead me back home, and back to a life balance that feeds my soul.

We are fortunate to have had the experience of living in Asheville. It’s where we moved to as we were falling in love. It was our home base when Chris proposed. It’s where we came home after getting married in Vegas. It’s where we acquired our three precious pets. We will always love it and have fond memories of our years there.

On to the next chapter right at the dawn of a new year and right at the close of this blogging experience. I would have never guessed I’d be here now! Wow! How things change so quickly.

Our move went very smoothly today. We had lots of help and got many boxes packed away. I feel so blessed and full of love. This place already feels like home!

Choose to be your happiest and best self!

One of the most refreshing moments of the day was shoveling and de-icing our driveway and the road in front of out house. I haven’t been exercising lately so just getting my heart rate up and blood flowing a little bit felt really good. I’m ready to join a gym and get back on track. Hopefully it will be a little warmer in Atlanta and I’ll be able to walk the dog more too.

Today I found myself labeling things as “the last:” the last trip to Lowes and Target, the last dinner at the Aville Outback (one of our favorites!), the last trash pick up on Wednesday. We’re really doing this. Like I told Chris tonight at dinner, I’m sad to leave Asheville behind, but I couldn’t imagine staying here another day. Moving on feels like the best decision.

I hope you’re staying warm and enjoying the last days of 2010. Choose to be your happiest and best self!

The sound of spinning tires awakens me from my late afternoon slumber, prompting me to look out the window to the sight of a big truck (yes, a Dodge truck!) slipping and sliding up our snow-covered road. After spinning and shoveling and backing and gassing it a few times, the truck finally gives up and heads back to where it started.

Car number two is attempting the climb. Revving engine. Spinning. Sliding. Backing up. Trying to gain momentum. Out of nowhere an even smaller car (a Chevy Aveo), goes around it and makes it over the hill with no problem. Now I am perplexed. What is the trick? It seems to be momentum. If the car is moving fast enough starting at the bottom of the hill, as long as it doesn’t slow down on the climb, it makes it over the crest and coasts on down.

Is that the case in life as well? Do we just have to have enough force to get us over the hump and on our way to where we want to be?

Car number two is still spinning it’s wheels. Now there are three men pushing the car. Can their force get it over the hump? No. That didn’t last long. Wait a minute, a car that passed earlier is in front and offering a yellow ribbon to tow it.  I watch as they tie the vehicles together. This is determination! Working as one, now both vehicles are sliding. Up and down and up and down. Two steps forward and three steps back. Finally they work together, one pushing and one pulling. ALAS! They’re over! Who knew I could be so entertained and enlightened by cars getting stuck in the snow.

The first truck, that turned around after several failed attempts, has me asking, is going back to where we started progress or failure? Though moving backwards is motion, it is not motion in the direction that we’ve intended. Also, is it really possible to go back to exactly where we started or is our perception forever thwarted or enhanced by our experience of being stuck? In the case of the truck, of course, this is way too deep, just like the snow that stopped it. But what about in the course of our lives?

As for the second car. What was the critical element that got it unstuck? Was it determination, persistence or team work or all of the above? Was where they were going so important that they kept on keeping on until they got there?

And what about the tiny car that in the blink of an eye, passed the stuck car and made it over the hill without hesitation. Hmmmm.

What lesson of success can each of these cars teach? One gives up and goes home. One keeps going and eventually makes it over because of persistence, determination and the support of others. And one effortlessly makes it over, never even seeing the hill as an obstacle.The success of the cars had nothing to do with who had the best equipment. It probably had something to do with the importance of where the person was going. It definitely had something to do with the driver’s mindset, determination, and in the case of one car, the willingness to accept the help of another.

Which car are you?

Which car do you want to be?

The rest of the morning was super laid back with most of my time spent reading and watching HGTV on the couch, after devouring the two egg breakfast I got from IHOP. Yummy! By lunch time cabin fever had set in. I got up, got ready and Chris and I headed to the mall just to get out of the house. It was a blustery walk but it was worth it to be out and about. Only about half of the stores were open, but we enjoyed ourselves anyway.

We headed home for more lounging and some packing. After several boxes and even more lounging, we went out once again this time with Chili’s as our destination. Unfortunately, it was closed when we got there. In fact, it seemed that most of Tunnel Road was closed. The roads are pretty bad and now the wind is whipping. Looks like we’ll be in for at least part of the day tomorrow too. Chris tried unsuccessfully to get the car out. All this inside time really is good since we need to pack. More of that tomorrow.

I hope you’re warm and happy! Choose to be your happiest and best self!